13 – Why do our children have tantrums & meltdowns and how to respond?

Welcome to Trusting Children Podcast Episode 13. I’m Aisha your host, I am a mum of 3, I used to work with children in schools and nurseries and now I love working with parents.

I started this podcast to support parents around the world in making the ground-breaking shift into respectful parenting. Because it’s not always easy, but you don’t have to do it alone.

Thank you for sharing your time with me today.

Floods of tears over the green cup, the broken in half banana or the milk that was supposed to be warm not cold and now it’s too warm. Our children can sometimes have the biggest emotions over the smallest things. If you are wondering how as a parent you can respond to these emotional outbursts, often called meltdowns or tantrums, then this episode is for you.

There is quite a lot of conflicting advice: on one hand we are told to ignore the child, don’t give into their desires, stay strong or they’ll have you wrapped around their little finger. On the other hand we are told to stay calm and help our little ones get through these emotions, but it’s not an easy thing to do! When emotions are involved, our own ones often start playing a big role in any interaction we end up having with our child and that can often add to the turmoil. In this episode I am going to explore why our children have these intense emotions, what is the best thing you as a parent can do during a meltdown and why it is important to respond empathetically. Like I said, it’s not always easy, so alongside the why I will also give you the HOW. By the end of this episode, you will understand the reasons behind our children’s emotional outbursts, how you can respectfully respond to them and be equipped with strategies on how you can stay calm when your children are not.

Hi everyone, welcome back after a couple of weeks. I hope you are all well, thanks for being here with me. I have a really sweet story to tell you. So you know how sometimes your children will say things and you think it’s a bit random, but then after you find out it wasn’t random at all and you realise, wow! They really are processing and taking everything in. So on the way back from nursery I was telling my children how in a few weeks we are going to drive to the UK and we will see Grandma & Grandad, and Babcia (polish for Grandma) and Grandpa and as I was telling them about all the people we will see that we haven’t seen in a long time I heard this little voice from the back saying “I want to stay with Mark” so I went on to explain of course Mark is going to come with us blablabla. Anyway, the next day I started telling Mark this story and he had this “woow” moment. He said “That explains it!” So apparently after we got back home, the twin who was saying he wanted to stay with Mark came into the house looking for him “Mark where are you” and he was upstairs so he went up straight to him and said “Mark you are coming with me?” “You are coming with me?” And Mark had no idea what he was on about…but he was just checking that Mark was definitely coming with us. It just made me realise that often we kinda brush off or dismiss something our children say, because we can’t figure out what they mean….but they ALWAYS MEAN something. They are so absorbent, their little minds are working all the time. Have you ever had a situation where you thought your child was saying random stuff and later you figured out exactly what they meant, that they had a purpose?

Well, let’s move onto our episode today. Our children can often be like a melting pot of emotions. Imagine a live volcano, add in a tidal wave and maybe a tornado and earthquake to that. Haha, I’m obviously joking. But in all seriousness, we know that young children can often be quite explosive when expressing what they are feeling. Intense emotions. Emotional outbursts. Meltdowns. Tantrums – these are all names for something that happens in our child’s brain that results in them not being able to control their expressions. It is something that can be very triggering to many adults, make us feel very uncomfortable, sometimes even threatened. So why do children do this and how can we learn to deal with these strong emotions in a supportive and respectful way?

If you have been listening to my podcast for a while, you know that I always like to start with the WHY. I really strongly believe that once we begin to understand why children do certain things things, it helps us see them in a different light. They are not doing it to mess with us, there is almost always a reason for it. Then we can start feeling more compassionate towards them, and it can also help to calm our own frustration, because we can actually empathise with them once we understand them.

So why is it that meltdowns or tantrums is such a common occurrence in young children? And the answer is biology.   Their brains are not mature enough to be able to be fully control their emotions when they get overwhelmed. Don’t worry…I’m going to explain this a bit more.

When a human baby is born, it’s absolutely fascinating that their brain is about 50% of the size of an adult brain. Then in the first year that doubles, and by age 3 it is 80% the size of an adult brain and 90% by age 5. However, this astounding growth does not mean full functionality and maturity equal to an adult brain. It takes years for the brain to develop, it’s not until our mid-twenties that a human brain is considered mature, and it still keeps on growing and changing after that.

Imagine building a house. Just because the entire shell of the house of it is there, doesn’t mean you can move in. You still have to connect the electrics and the plumbing, you need to build internal walls, you need to put floors in, install the bathrooms, paint the walls, put furniture, ornaments, art..and still you might change things all the time. It’s never absolutely complete. There is always something you can improve. Same with a child’s brain. Just because a 5 year old’s brain is almost the same size as an adults one, does not mean it functions in the same way. The way the brain develops is from the bottom up. Tina Payne Bryson and Dan Siegel authors of The Whole Brain Child refer to these as the downstairs brain and the upstairs brain. The downstairs part of the brain, sometimes called the “lizard” or “reptilian brain”: the brain stem and the limbic region is the more primitive part responsible for basic functions (breathing, balancing, blinking) and survival urges like eating, mating and defence. It’s also responsible for reactions and impulses (fight, flight or freeze) and for strong emotions like fear or anger.

The upstairs part of the brain which is the cerebral cortex and it’s various parts and is responsible for higher-order brain functions such as: memory, perception, association, thought, voluntary physical action, and here are the big ones: reasoning and decision making and control over the body and emotions.

So let’s go back to the house analogy. We’ve got the shell, we have finished off the downstairs but the upstairs is still under construction and will be for many many years. You can still go up there to slowly start working on it, you can access it via a ladder. But every now and again, the ladder falls down and you can’t access the upstairs you are stuck in the downstairs and you have to re-build or re-place the ladder in order to access the upstairs. I’m going to come back to this ladder analogy in a while, so remember it.

So all those functions, being able to think logically, being self-aware, empathy towards others, reasoning and control over your responses and emotions are all functions that are controlled by the part of the brain that is still very very immature. Our children literally CANNOT function in the same way that an adult can, their brain is still developing. Their brain is still under construction.

I have this little mental image that I sometimes go to, when my children are doing something that I feel is totally unreasonable, I imagine a little “under construction” sign over the top of their heads, where the upstairs brain is and it reminds me that and Im going to quote Dr Bryson and Dr Siegel here “they are doing the best they can, with the brain they have.” I also have a mantra that I say and because it’s so difficult to say quickly (it’s almost like one of those tongue-twisters), I find it quite amusing and that kinda diffuses my frustration or anger at the time. Do you wanna hear it? Ok, “their pre-frontal cortex is not yet fully developed” now try to say it fast in order to calm yourself down…hahaha

Ok I hear you say, but there are moments when we feel like our child really understands something, and seems very reasonable and mature and regulated. Of course. It’s because in a normal, regulated state our children CAN access those upper parts of the brain, they are developing those connections, they are building it, they are working on it. What happens is that at times when they become dis-regulated they cannot access those higher-order functions. And this is where the lower part takes over and what we see is the meltdown or tantrum. You might have heard the phrases “dis-regulation” or “dis-regulated state” and “regulated” state, or “integrated state” or “dis-integration” I am briefly going to explain what they mean. An integrated state is when different parts of the brain are working together, communicating with each other and working as a whole. When are brain is in an integrated state, we are able to self-regulate our emotions, behaviours, actions. Our body feels normal, calm, and is in a regulated state. When our brain is in a state of dis-integration, where the separate parts are not linking together we aren’t able to respond calmly, reasonably or logically to what is happening. This sends our entire body into a state of dis-regulation. You might feel some physical symptoms like increased hear-rate, sweating, feeling hot etc and you also will probably feel over-flooded by emotions whether it’s anger, fear, sadness. We are then not entirely capable of controlling our reactions, responses. This is what a meltdown or tantrum is. It’s a loss of the integration of the brain which then leads to the entire body being dis-regulated. I hope that makes sense.

There are so many different variables that can lead to dis-regulation or dis-integration. It can depend on their character, their temperament, the relationships they have with people around them, the experiences throughout the day, noise level, visual stimulation like screens, changes in routine, or any changes really. Children also can easily get overwhelmed & overstimulated, any feeling of uncertainty or feeling unsafe can send them into a state of disregulation, their primal brain will take over and what we observe on the outside is the meltdown.

Often with young children it’s the “last straw” that can cause the upper brain to shut off. It’s worth noting that when our child is falling apart because they wanted the small fork not the big one, or something similar that to us can seem trivial, that it’s often not about the “thing.” If you have been through a meltdown with your child then you probably know that giving them the small fork will not stop the tears and emotions. What would usually happen, or at least this is my children, I would hand them the small fork and they would wail even louder because I had taken away the big one which they were so adamant they didn’t want and caused the meltdown in the first place. It’s never about the thing. They are now in a disregulated state, and giving them the thing they asked for isn’t going to help. It’s important to note that if the meltdown IS about a certain thing, even if it might seem insignificant to us, we need to remember that it’s important to our child. And we should treat it as such and not dismiss or diminish it “it’s only a fork, why are you so upset about a fork.” But rather meet them where they are, and acknowledge how they are feeling about it.

When our children are in this state, their brains “think” that they are unsafe. The reaction is the same as if they were in a dangerous situation. The primal brain can’t always distinguish between actual danger and the wrong fork. What it reads is something that is causing the person to feel not-their-normal-self, on-edge, rattled or uncertain, ultimately not secure. And when those build up over a day, or a week eventually it’s too much for the brain to cope and the eruption happens.

The part of our brain that causes this is called the amygdala, which is a little bit like the security guard of the brain. Its function is to process and express emotions and actions extremely quickly, especially when dealing with anger or fear in order to protect us. When in danger we don’t have time to logically think and evaluate which response will most likely be the safest option for us, we act on impulse. This is the fight, flight or freeze. So when your child gets angry over the yellow plate or is “afraid” that you have eaten the last apple or genuinely frightened for example if they think you will actually leave the playground without them, the amygdala fires up and takes over. The rational, logical, upstairs part of the brain is not accessible during this time. Remember that ladder from earlier? It has fallen down and you cannot get upstairs right now. So what you need to do is replace the ladder, calm the amygdala down, tell their brain that they are not in danger, they are safe. Not with words, but with your presence and your actions. And we do this through genuine connection and acceptance of them no matter what state they are in.

So during this turmoil, this tornado of emotions, our role as adults is to help our child regulate. To get from this dis-regulated state back into a state of neural integration and emotional regulation. And we do this through co-regulation. What is co-regulation. Mona Delahooke explains this is the simplest way in her book “Beyond Behaviours.” I’ll put a link in the show notes to all the books that I have mentioned today. Co-regulation. She says: “humans gain the ability to manage their own emotions by being soothed by parents and care sharers. That’s it, there’s no other way.” The way that human beings learn to regulate their own emotions is by having someone co-regulate with them over and over and over again. This causes neurons in their brain to wire together, to learn that the green spoon isn’t in fact danger, and they are safe when this happens, their brain doesn’t need to activate the security guard, the amygdala, the fight or flight or freeze mode. But this isn’t just a result of a one off instance. This co-regulation has to happen repetitively over many years. Remember the upstairs brain is under construction until our mid-twenties.

Research tells us that connecting and allowing these emotions to run their course is how we model regulation. Feeling these feelings, accepting them and then moving on naturally. We repeatedly need to show our children’s brains that whenever they are feeling, upset, angry, sad, anxious, scared…these emotions are normal and not a cause for the brain to go into this primal fight, flight or freeze mode. We need to help and support heir brains to connect and accept these emotions as a part of them

Now this isn’t easy. Because our own brains have been wired in a different way. When strong emotions occur our brains have over the years been told to “calm down” or “stop making a fuss” or “get over it” So often the case is that we have to regulate ourselves FIRST, before we can help our children through co-regulation.

OK, I hope I haven’t bored you too much, we are now moving onto the HOW part of this episode.

In order to make sure we are in a regulated state, we also NEED to look after ourselves. The whole cup analogy, you can’t pour from an empty cup, or the oxygen mask analogy – you have to put your own mask on first before you can help others. If we are feeling depleted, exhausted, dis-regulated it is going to be SO much harder for us to help our children regulate.

3 things we can do before the meltdown:

 1. Prepare ourselves. A strategy that I learned recently is checking in with myself throughout the day. If I notice myself feeling agitated, am I hungry, am I thirsty or tired am I feeling upset or frustrated at anything. If so, I try to find something to do myself that will help calm my own emotions, something small that will make me smile or just a 2 minute break.

2. Prepare the environment you will be in. If I feel like I cannot cope today I will find something easy to do with the kids, go out in the garden, go for a walk, go to a playground or do you know what…watch a short film so I can sit in silence for a bit. It’s ok to do this. When you recognise what you need, it’s so important that you don’t ignore this. Because that can often lead to us feeling totally drained and then feeling dis-regulated ourselves. If you need something more, create a routine or time in your daily schedule to make sure you look after yourself. Communicate with the people around you and don’t be afraid to ask for support. When you give yourself that time to regulate, you will feel re-energised and more able to take on anything that comes your way, rather than trying to run on an empty tank.

3. Model regulating. I guess this is more about dealing with our own meltdown rather than our children’s. A few things that you can try are: taking deep breaths, placing one hand on your chest and one of your stomach, sitting down on the floor, or sitting on your hands if you’re worried you might hurt your child (I’ve also heard people say they put their arms on their hips or up in the air), walking around, getting a drink of cold water, if you can step away for a second, splashing your face with water. If you have tried anything else let me know. Modelling is such a powerful tool. Its definitely not a quick fix, but it really really works. Our children are absorbing EVERYTHING we do. And they internalise it, they learn from watching what you do, not what you say. I had a little reminder of this a few nights ago. I think I mentioned that for the last few weeks my kids’ bedtime has been extended…they just don’t fall asleep until around 9, no matter how early we go up to their bedroom. Anyway, it has been frustrating to say the least, when one or two of them start calming down and the third just decides to jump up and sprint around the room. And yes, I have definitely shouted at them, which I’m not proud of…but I’m telling you to keep it real. Anyway one evening I could feel this anger rising and honestly, I was about to yell at them again but instead I kinda semi-yelled through gritted teeth while trying to breathe “I’m started to get really frustrated, I’ve asked you so many times to please stay in your bed and you are running around again, I don’t want to shout but I can feel myself getting angry” to which my 4 year old stopped running, looked at me and said in the sweetest most angelic voice as if she knew all the solutions to all the problems “just take some deep breaths mummy, and it will help you calm down!” And do you know what, just her saying that was enough of a pause for me to check myself before I exploded and I was able to calm down and calmly ask her to please stay in her bed. We ended up cuddling, instead of arguing. This is that magic pause. It’s not magic really, it’s science. It’s the time you can allow yourself to access your upstairs brain, the logical, reasoning part in order to respond with intent rather than allowing your amygdala to take over and let that primal part to put you into the fight, flight or freeze state.

The more you can do it, the more honest you are about how you feel and what you do to cope with it, the more they will notice and absorb. And as they get older, you can refer back to that. I can see that you’re angry let’s take some deep breaths, they trust it will help them because they have seen it helping you.

The reason these physical strategies help, like deep breaths, putting your hand on your chest, walking around is that the dis-regulation we feel is physical. When we notice the physical changes in our body we can start calming those responses down, telling our body and our brain that we are not in danger, which then enables us to access our upstairs brain.

OK so what about during a meltdown.

When our child is having a meltdown, the important thing to remember is that we need to bring them back into that regulated, integrated state. There’s this meme floating around instagram, not sure if you have seen it that says; When in the history of calming down, has anyone actually calmed down by being told to calm down?! Haha. So don’t tell them to calm down, get over it, they can’t. They need our help. We need to be the calm and regulated influence that brings them back, rather than an extra explosive addition.

Model strategies, do them together but also be aware that they might not always respond. You sit opposite the child, holding their hands and blowing out air. Or holding their hands over their tummy and chest, or sitting opposite and putting your hands on their shoulders and their hands on yours and breathing together. Physical touch is a biological need and helps with regulation, however some children don’t want it at the time and that’s fine too. You can sit near them. My children sometimes want cuddles, and other times not. Often they’ll change their mind about that every 30 seconds. The important thing is, I am there. They can have a hug if they want, and if they don’t tats fine, but I am still there.

Don’t try to rush them through it “come on, how long is this gonna go on for? Enough now” etc…also not helpful. “I am here for you, it’s ok to feel this way, do you want a hug?” A lot more helpful. As tempting as it is to distract our children from this, in the long run what we are telling them is that “these feelings need to be hidden, I am not comfortable with you feeling this way”. I like Janet Lansbury’s welcoming phrase: roll out the red carpet for all their feelings. Allow them to feel what they feel and know they are secure and safe even when they are feeling mad, or sad, or overwhelmed. Let them run their course. Did you know that tears contain cortisol, which is the main stress hormone. This means that crying, is actually our body’s way of releasing stress, getting rid of the built up cortisol. So allowing them to cry for as long as they need to, means their bodies will get rid of all the stress hormones they have accumulated. What we can do while it’s happening is acknowledge and wholly accept their emotions, no matter what they are. “I understand you are very upset, you really wanted to wear the green socks and your sister is wearing them today.” “I can see you’re very angry, it’s so frustrating when we can’t have what we want” I have done a whole episode on acknowledging difficult emotions, episode 3 I’ll put a link to it in the notes too.

There are a few more things I’d like you to remember you can do during a meltdown: 

1. It’s still ok to hold a boundary. “I know you’re mad at me for leaving the playground, I won’t let you kick me.” Or “I know you’re upset because your brother took the car from you, I won’t let you hurt him.” I have also done a full episode on boundaries and limits, episode 9 if you want to know more. It’s absolutely necessary that you still keep everyone safe, including them if they are hurting themselves. My twins used to bang their heads on the floor, they still sometimes do it but not as often. I would place my hand in between their head and the floor so they wouldn’t hurt themselves.

2. It’s ok for you to step away. If it’s lasting a long time and you start feeling dis-regulated yourself. It’s ok to take a break. Make sure your child is safe & be honest. I need to step outside for a minute and take some deep breaths, you’re safe, I will be back very shortly. We should never abandon a child who is dis-regulated and dis-integrated to deal with this alone, BUT it’s ok for you to step away for a bit and regulate yourself. If you have a parenting partner you can tag out, but if you don’t have that option, like I said. Make sure they are safe for the 1-2 minutes you need to catch a breath and re-centre yourself. I will just say one thing with tagging out, it’s perfectly fine to do that, but I would also always make sure I come back to the child, so they don’t feel like “I couldn’t be bothered to deal with their emotions so I escaped and got someone else to do it.” If I was dealing with a meltdown and Mark tagged me out, it wouldn’t be for the rest of the meltdown, it would be for me to calm myself, have a glass of water, and then go back in, so my child knew that I wasn’t afraid or didn’t want to deal with their strong emotions, does that make sense?

3. It’s ok for you to remove yourself and your child from a triggering situation. If you are in a park or shop or somewhere that can be noisy & overwhelming you can carry your child to somewhere calmer, away from what caused the meltdown and help them regulate there. Sometimes it’s possible, other times it might not be. When you cannot move them away, when you are stuck in a public place imagine creating a forcefield around yourself and your child. The world goes by around you outside of this forcefield but you are in this bubble with your child, your own atmosphere, your own time, independent of the world. YOU really are the super-hero in that moment. You are keeping them safe, you are doing such incredibly powerful and world-changing work in that moment. You are shaping their brain to grow into an emotionally intelligent adult. This forcefield around you is judgement-proof, imagine all those little judgements buzzing around, they get get zapped when they touch the forcefield. And if anyone comes up to you to give you their 2 cents worth of “calm down” advice or you feel like they are thinking your child is behaving badly, you can say to them “actually, his/her pre-frontal cortex isn’t fully developed and his amygdala has fired up sending his brain into a state of dis-integration.” I bet that would shut them up, hahahaha!

I know that meltdowns are hard to deal with, but I actually find them to be a beautiful moment of connection in a way. Yes, of course we cherish the moments when we are laughing and cuddling and playing with our children. But these moments of such raw connection, the deepest and most intimate emotions that they share with us, when they are at their most vulnerable and they repeatedly are comforted and feel safer and more secure each time this happens, this builds that strong connection, it builds that secure attachment that is so important for healthy emotional development. It’s so powerful it’s so beautiful and also, for many of us it’s something we never had. So we are at the same time healing our own inner child, telling them that it’s ok that we felt like this. There’s another quote that I’ve seen online, unfortunately I don’t know who it’s by, if you know please tell me: imagine, if for a whole generation instead of “calm down” people heard “I’m here for you.” Ah, how beautiful and peaceful that would be.

Ok, so what happens when we DO lose it, when we have missed some cues of our own frustration. 2 things. First thing to realise, is that IT IS TOTALLY NORMAL. Repeat after me, It’s totally normal. Our bodies and brains, yes they are more mature and we have had years of dealing with emotions, but we are still human. Our brains can still dis-integrate and our bodies can still dis-regulate. It’s normal. And it happens to EVERYONE. Really, everyone. What we can do, is be more aware. Be aware of the state you are in, understand that it’s your brains response to a “threat”, meaning an overwhelming, overstimulating circumstance. Everything that we talked about what happens to our children during a meltdown earlier…it’s the same for us, it’s our meltdown. So take the time, regulate yourself. Calm your amygdala down, your security guard, tell them you are safe and you need to access your upstairs brain in order to think and respond reasonable and rationally again. Don’t feel bad about it, don’t beat yourself up about it, you are not a bad parent, you are human.

The second thing is repairing afterwards. Dr Tina Payne Bryson says that repairing is also such a powerful thing to model to our children and equally as important as supporting them. Showing them that we are human, and we also have emotions, and we can feel angry or upset or mad but the difference is what we choose to do after.

• remember not to place blame on our child. They probably already feel scared and don’t need that pressure of feeling like they are the reason we got mad.
• Take on the responsibility of your emotions. We are modelling and teaching them that we are the only ones in control of and responsible for our emotions and actions and it’s not their job to soothe us. My children do often give me a cuddle if they can see I’m upset but there is no pressure to do that. They do it, because that’s how we respond to them, so they are repeating what they know. “Come give me a cuddle to make me feel better” is way too much pressure on a little one, who is only just learning to deal with their own emotions. They don’t need that kind of burden. You can say it to your partner or friend, but not your child.
• Also, be mindful of how you apologise. No BUTs. “I’m sorry I got mad, but you didn’t do what I asked” or “I’m sorry I yelled, but you were making so much noise” those are not apologies. If you’re partner said to you “I’m sorry about our fight this morning but you really didn’t pick your socks up” that would most likely cause another argument, haha. Dr Vanessa LaPoint even goes so far as to say we shouldn’t apologise to children, that it puts too much of a burden of us expecting their forgiveness onto them. I don’t want to go too much off the track here, but it’s definitely a concept that blew my mind a bit and it’s worth looking into maybe in another episode. So after dropping that bomb in there, haha, how can we do it? We can apologies, but like I said, be mindful of not placing any burden on your child. Apologies and take responsibility for your actions and make a plan on how to do things better next time. I have done this with my 4 year old. We have had conversations and reflected on what to do next time. And she has suggested “next time, don’t shout at me just ask me” – sounds really simple doesn’t it 🙂 but it has helped me, remembering her words. And I sometimes say it out loud…I feel like shouting, but I won’t do that I’m going to ask you because that’s what we agreed I can do. 
• I’m sorry I yelled, I shouldn’t have done that. I am going to make sure I calm down before I ask you next time.
• It’s important to reassure our child that we still love them, and that nothing that they will do will ever stop that. Our love for them is unconditional. I got mad, but it was nothing to do with you. It was my body that I couldn’t control in that moment. I always love you, no matter what you are feeling or what I am feeling.

This is called rupture & repair, it’s actually a thing. When a rupture in the relationship happens and it can be repaired it actually strengthens the relationship even more. It shows both people that no matter what challenges or problems the relationship goes through, it will withstand them and survive them without damaging the relationship. That is also an incredibly powerful thing for our children to internalise. So don’t feel bad when you lose it, regulate yourself, come back to the situation with a clear head and repair. It’s an incredible opportunity for connection and growth, providing you leave any guilt outside the front door!

Ok, I’m wondering what else I can tell you! Things that can help minimise meltdowns…consistent boundaries, confident boundaries. Children like to know what to expect. Feeling uncertain can throw them off, can cause their brain security guard to activate. When they have consistent boundaries, even if they aren’t happy about them, it does help them feel safe and secure which helps keep that amygdala, that security guard asleep in its little security booth. Episode 9 is all about boundaries.

OMG I feel like this was another pretty intense episode. But I really hope that you found it helpful. As always, you can find me on instagram and Facebook @trustingchildren, if you have any questions about the episode you can send me a message or email aisha@ I will also do a Live Q&A on instagram on Monday evening so you can hop on there to ask any questions.

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